~ Penelope Trunk, "How to Write About Your Life"
Well, she may be a brilliant writer and entrepreneur (in fact, I do believe she is, and greatly admire her for this), Penelope is no paragon of wisdom when it comes to Life, not to mention Love.
Yes, and this helps explain why her life is more interesting than happy.
Scientific evidence strongly suggests that this is a false dilemma. Why? Because
both are essential elements in the lives of the happiest people. These are just two out of the five strengths possessed by the happiest people, curiosity and hope. The other three are gratitude, zest, and love.
No surprise there, love.
This refers to one's proclivity toward reciprocal, intimate (though not necessarily sexual) relationships.
In any case, with all her fascination for happiness she thereby thwarts happiness at every turn with that one belief, that there is no sane reason to believe that life will be any easier or better in the future than it is today. Unfortunately, not only is such a belief antithetical to happiness, it is perhaps the single most accurate predictor of suicide, another fascination of our dear Penelope's.
Regina Spektor's words here are apt, and I think describe a salubrious approach:
This is how it works
You're young until you're not
You love until you don't
You try until you can't
You laugh until you cry
You cry until you laugh
And everyone must breathe
Until their dying breath...
A healing song, if ever there was. Listen to it here.